The funeral went as well as you can imagine, only one hiccup, the coffin had a large crack down the side, so another one had to be sorted, but we only knew about that as the funeral directors felt we needed to know, and dad was in the new coffin even before we knew.
It wasn’t a highly religious service, but then Dad wasn’t a highly religious person. My Cousin read a poem and my eldest played one of my Dad’s favourite pieces of classical music on his clarinet and right at the end of the service each person came up to the coffin and placed a single flower by the side. A little bit of summer on a bleak family day. After the service we went back to a favourite pub/restaurant where we swapped stories, laughed and cried some more.
So that’s it, the big splash on the river of life that once was my father, the last ripple has faded away and the river once more is tranquil. I’m not sure how this has left me feeling, I suppose you could call it numb? A person lives a life and then in the end you’re left with just a memory
You might say that it’s only important to you, that you achieve all the things you want to do, that you leave this world having for filled your dreams, so before you die you can I say, I did that, I lived the life I wanted, I achieved the things I wanted and had a bloody good time along the way. So as long as no-one gets hurt live the life you want, for you never know tomorrow could be your last day.
I will buy that bike and do the London to Brighton bike ride
I will learn to play the piano
I will finish my 200 blocks of crochet and turn it into a blanket
I will enjoy my children while they are here, for tomorrow they will grow up and lead their own lives.
I intend to make full use of every available opportunity and have some great fun along the way.
There is no point in getting upset because all the ironing never got done, or the rooms in your house aren’t 100% tidy (who’s are when you’ve got kids) and for me, I know I will never look like a model or beauty queen, so I will make the most of what I’ve got and if people don’t like it TOUGH.!!!!!
And yes I do have to work, not because it’s all there is to life, but so I’ve got the money to achieve all the things I want to achieve in life.
“I work to live not live to work”